Our minds create our reality.
By teaching kids to realize the power of their own minds and to shape their reality with the decisions they make, we can, as a community, help build a network of kindness, tolerance, respect and sanity.
By teaching kids to realize the power of their own minds and to shape their reality with the decisions they make, we can, as a community, help build a network of kindness, tolerance, respect and sanity.
These wise words about ways to prevent self-hatred come from Earthgirls of all ages!- Seeing through the lies created by society and culture that tell me there is something wrong with me
- Reading my horoscope - Cooking and eating: feeling like I decide what goes in my body - Going for a run - Giving and receiving affection - Doing anything creative: art, music, gardening, making jewelry - Therapy - Self-forgiveness - Good films/music/books - Making myself laugh - Music - Time with animals - Laughter - Sensual pleasures - Talking through problems with close friends - Working with a terrific therapist to untangle vestiges of self-hate - Good friends - Self-care: working out, eating well, loving the body equals self-love - Giving myself treats to look forward to in life, making it easier to work hard - Meaningful activities such as listening to or making music - Reading books about sharks. They are strong and interesting and remind me that I have that in me too - Being outside: gardening, walking in the woods or near the ocean - Helping others; always being kind to others as my underlying motivation gives me integrity and peace - Being embodied, including pleasures like enjoying food and holding hands - Connecting with people - Journaling - Working hard and feeling accomplished in some aspect of life - Choosing the right partner - Team sports: they develop physical and mental power. Depending on a team and working towards a common goal help with self-esteem - Being in environments where my intellect matters more than my appearance - Realize I am not seeing things clearly, as they really are - I give others compassion, forgiveness and the benefit of the doubt all the time, so I remember I can do that for myself too - Time in nature (surf, surf, surf) - Making a ritual of out showering or body oiling. I use that time to say kind things to my body - If I fixate on external things like looks, remembering that things are impermanent - Art - Laughing with friends - Maintaining connection with those I love, especially girlfriends - Giving myself the benefit of the doubt when the inner critic is strong - Cooking - Intellectual stimulation - Being loved by children and teenagers - Being aware of my emotions - Interdependent relationship - Acceptance: yes, that’s what I did. So what? Moving on with full potential for doing things differently - Having a spiritual perspective on life - Work hard, play hard: a playful perspective towards life - Laughter & Humor - Reading books, not social media sites - Less negative mass media such as mainstream news - Listening to my heart - Time in nature - All kinds of self-care - Dancing - Being generous with others - Enough sleep - Being afraid. Nothing helps me feel more proud of myself than challenges and pushing myself to do something I am afraid to do. It doesn’t have to be big |
- Not listening to critics who are negative - Self-compassion - When I’m in the thick of self-hatred, I think of what I would say if I was my own friend, and know how much love, compassion, forgiveness, acceptance I would have - Yoga - Almost completely unconditional support from family and friends - Cleaning - Involvement in the arts; something that encourages self-expression - Engaging my imagination - Doing something kind for someone else - Friends - Animals - Presence: being present with this day, this moment. Feeling my emotions and body - Being of service to others; volunteering - Exercise - Having at least one parent who supports every idea I have - Surrounding myself with positive people - Remembering impermanence - Remembering my good qualities - Expressing love to those I care about - Singing - Talking with good friends - Seeing my child’s smile - Giving myself a break because no one is perfect. What is perfect anyways? - Meditation and prayer - Looking at pictures of someone like the Dalai Lama - Being outside - Positive reinforcement from others - Laughing - Alone time - Nourishing body practices like dance and yoga - Connecting with the Earth - Crafting, doing something with my hands - Meditation - Making someone laugh - Crying when I need to - Appreciating the beauty of other women - Being vulnerable with people who I know will accept me - Baths - Not dwelling or wallowing in the past, trying to be in the moment - Reading - Remembering I am an individual and actively not comparing myself to others - Honesty and talking about things - When I feel down on myself, or look in the mirror and don’t feel happy, I immediately say 5-10 nice things about myself right away - Receiving bodywork and healing sessions - Crying and surrendering always help me feel more compassion for myself - Meaningful human connection - Reading, which helps me experience the world outside my own perspective - Saying no when I need to, rather than people pleasing - Humor - Being around animals and plants. They don’t seem to suffer from self-hatred - Making my personal space beautiful and nourishing - Reminding myself this too shall pass - Writing and reading poetry - Strong and secure relationships - Relaxing in a way that I feel good about myself the next day - Maintaining awesome female friends - Working hard at something until I get proficient at it - Surrounding myself with good people who lift me up - Feeling that I’m doing something good & something right - Spiritual talks, Dharma talks - Talking as kindly to myself with my internal self-talk as I would talk to a dear friend - Thinking of others who have it worse than I do |
©2018 Julia Hengst